Do some honest self reflection. It is the basis for a successful mentoring relationship.

Ask yourself:  

  1. Are you motivated?  If you are motivated and dedicate time and energy you are more likely to succeed.
  2. Are you sincerely interest in learning?  Effective mentoring relationships are based on a desire to learn.
  3. Do you really have the time to commit to developing and maintaining the relationship? Do a realistic assessment of all your time commitments to make sure you have enough of it to go around. Remember, it takes time and work to build trust. See The Value of Trust for a list a 12 trust building behaviors.
  4. Are you prepared to work? While a mentor can facilitate the learning and development process, it is the mentee who must do the work.
  5. Can you honestly share your vulnerabilities and challenges with a mentor? It isn’t easy to admit your challenges to another person unless you are self aware.
  6. Are you open to asking for, receiving, accepting and acting upon feedback? The honest, respectful, and straightforward exchange of feedback is the foundation of a good mentoring relationship.
  7. Are you able to ask for what you need? Are you aware of what you need? Are you looking for a safe haven, a sounding board, a brain to pick, a kick in the pants, a shoulder to lean on, another set of eyes, push back?
  8. How do you learn best? There are many different types of mentoring options to consider. See pages 8-10 of The Mentee’s Guide: Making Mentoring Work for You

 Can you answer all eight questions?  Congratulations. You are ready to begin the process of seeking, selecting and recruiting a mentor.