Are Books Dead? Or Are We (Finally) Rethinking How Humans Learn?

When I asked Ori Brafman, professor at UC Berkeley’s Haas School of Business, what questions he had been wrestling with lately, he wondered aloud about the future of books in a world where learning is increasingly interactive and relational.

The inquiry stopped me cold. Because I love books.

Fiction and nonfiction. Memoir, business, romance, historical novels. I surround myself with them. I read them, recommend them, and keep stacks within reach. Even unread books bring me comfort. They represent possibility and ideas waiting to be explored.

It prompted my reflection on a deeper question: Does the architecture of learning that books represent still match how people learn today?

Many of the learning formats we rely on were designed for a different era. Long readings, lectures, and traditional training modules often fail to engage modern learners. This shows up in classrooms and workplaces alike. Organizations invest heavily in training content, yet participation and retention remain stubbornly low.

Shrinking attention spans and digital distraction are common explanations. Those factors play a role. But they miss the deeper issue. The challenge is how we design learning.

Many learning systems still prioritize the transfer of information. The modern workplace increasingly demands something more: discernment, perspective, and judgment.

The challenge is no longer access to knowledge. It is making sense of it. When learning systems fail to support that work, organizations face a costly consequence: human potential that remains underdeveloped and underutilized.

For much of the last century, formal learning followed a familiar pattern: read the material, listen to the lecture, absorb the framework. The learner sits outside the knowledge, looking in.

Historically, humans learned differently. Learning happened through apprenticeship, storytelling, observation, experimentation, and conversation. Knowledge was experienced in context rather than delivered at a distance.

Learning was immersive.

This insight aligns with decades of research on adult learning. Malcolm Knowles argued that adults learn most effectively when learning is self-directed, relevant to real problems, and immediately applicable (Knowles, Holton & Swanson, 2015). David Kolb’s experiential learning model similarly emphasizes cycles of experience, reflection, and experimentation (Kolb, 1984).

Yet many modern learning environments continue to rely on lectures, readings, and static content. Traditional formats often conflict with what research shows about how adults learn.

Relationships create immersion every day.

In my work helping organizations design mentoring and learning ecosystems, mentoring is frequently misunderstood as advice or knowledge transfer. A more experienced professional shares what they know, and the mentee applies it.

But mentoring at its best does something deeper. It allows people to step inside another person’s thinking, experience, and judgment.

Knowledge transfer builds knowledge. Development builds discernment.

That distinction matters more than ever because information is abundant. Books, courses, podcasts, and digital tools can deliver knowledge instantly.

The harder task is interpretation.

The current debate about artificial intelligence often centers on whether technology weakens our ability to think. A more productive question is how these tools might deepen thinking. AI can surface perspectives, questions, and patterns we might not encounter on our own. The interpretation and judgment that follow remain fundamentally human work.

That work happens best through conversation and connection.

Generational shifts make this even more visible. Younger professionals have grown up in environments shaped by interaction, rapid feedback, and social learning. Dialogue and collaboration are natural modes of learning.

Yet many organizations still rely on static learning models designed for a different era.
If learning is going to engage people, the answer is not simply more content.

The answer is better-designed learning ecosystems.

In those ecosystems, content provides ideas. Technology expands exploration. Relationships create the space where ideas become insight.

Developmental networks – the constellation of people who challenge us, support us, and expand our perspective – become the engine of learning.

Here is where I’ve landed on Ori’s provocative question:

  • Books still matter – but learning systems built around content alone cannot produce the kind of growth and transformation organizations need.
  • The future of learning must be more immersive, more relational, and more intentionally designed.
  • In our modern era, books spark ideas. They fuel curiosity. They introduce us to new ways of seeing the world.

Learning takes hold somewhere else.

It happens in relationships. Through action. Through the messy work of testing ideas, applying them, and rolling up our sleeves to engage with them in practice.
That is where discernment develops and where growth happens.

That’s why the future of learning will belong to organizations that intentionally design environments where people can engage with ideas together. 

Civility

Is Anyone Else Alarmed by the Decline of Civility?

Civility is disappearing. Public meetings turn into shouting matches. Social media feeds overflow with personal attacks. Customers berate service workers. Even in workplaces, people talk past each other instead of to each other.

And it’s not just about rudeness. It’s how quickly conversations escalate, how little space there is for listening, and how disagreement turns into hostility. Civility isn’t about being well-behaved or avoiding conflict. It’s about how we engage—even when challenging norms or shaking things up.

Real change has never come from people simply being “nice.” It has come from people speaking up and staying in relationship with one another. Civility allows us to break barriers without breaking connections.

Civility Creates Community and Strengthens Peer Networks

When incivility takes over, people disengage, avoid tough conversations, or retreat into echo chambers. Over time, this fuels loneliness and isolation.

On the other hand, civility builds strong teams, workplaces, and neighborhoods. It makes people feel heard, valued, and more willing to participate.

Peer networks—professional, academic, or social—depend on civility. A thriving workplace or grassroots movement requires an atmosphere where people feel safe to share ideas. Civility paves the way for individuals to connect and form a true community.

Civility and Diplomacy: Learning From One Another

Civility and diplomacy go hand in hand. Diplomacy isn’t just for world leaders—it’s a skill we all use in daily life. Whether negotiating at work, leading diverse teams, or collaborating across cultures, diplomacy requires listening, thoughtful communication, and relationship-building—all hallmarks of civility.

Diplomacy isn’t about avoiding conflict; it’s about navigating it productively. The best diplomats don’t just argue their points—they learn from others. Civility enables that kind of meaningful dialogue.
When civility is abandoned—whether in politics, business, or everyday interactions—trust erodes, relationships break down, and opportunities for cooperation are lost.

Where Civility Has Gone Off the Rails

We see examples of incivility daily:

  • Breakdowns in Diplomacy: Dismissiveness and hostility in high-stakes negotiations weaken global cooperation and stall progress.
  • Social Media’s Callout Culture: What was meant to connect us often turns into a space where a single misstep—sometimes even a misunderstood comment—leads to public backlash.
  • Toxic Workplace Cultures: When people don’t feel respected, collaboration and innovation suffer, and disengagement rises.

Where Civility Has Made a Difference

Despite the challenges, civility still drives meaningful change. It is evident in processes like Open Space Technology (OST) and Restorative Justice (RJ), which create environments where people can engage in honest, respectful dialogue and tackle big issues through a shared sense of ownership and problem-solving. It also shows up in these contexts:

  • Programs That Foster Dialogue Across Divides: Organizations like Tomorrow’s Women, which brings together young Israeli and Palestinian women, and The Sustained Dialogue Institute, which fosters conversations in divided communities, show that structured, civil dialogue can bridge deep divides.
  • Cross-Industry Collaboration in Business: Successful multinational companies prioritize civility-driven negotiation, strengthening partnerships and decision-making.
  • Diplomatic Success: The Colombia Peace Agreement – In 2016, the Colombian government and FARC rebels ended five decades of conflict through civil negotiations, trust-building, and diplomacy. Instead of relying on force, leaders engaged in dialogue, proving that even deep divisions can be healed through civility.

Civility Starts with Small Choices

We can draw on these successes and make a difference in our workplaces and our relationships.

Civility isn’t about avoiding hard conversations. It’s about ensuring they remain productive. And while large-scale change matters, the real shift starts at the micro level—in everyday conversations, workplaces, and interactions.

So before sending that dismissive email, interrupting a colleague, or shutting down a different perspective, let’s take a beat. A single moment of civility—a pause, a question, an act of listening—can change the tone of a conversation and create space for connection.

Civility isn’t about pretending we all agree—it’s about ensuring we don’t lose each other in the process.

Where have you seen civility make a difference in your workplace, team, or community? 

Civility

The Quality of Your Questions

The best mentor-mentee relationships thrive on curiosity and powerful questions. Mentors should resist the urge to “fix” problems and avoid prescribing specific actions. Mentees should focus less on being who they think their mentor wants and more on approaching interactions with a willingness to learn, grow, and discover how to think.

I am always seeking great questions to facilitate these interactions. Recently, I discovered three excellent questions while listening to the audiobook Clear Thinking* by Shane Parrish. Parrish suggests that when seeking advice, your goal should be to understand how the other person thinks, not just what they think. Although his book is not specifically about mentoring, the questions he proposes can be highly beneficial for both mentees and mentors.

Questions Mentees can ask their Mentors
Mentees might ask….

1. What variables would you consider if you were in my shoes?
How do these variables relate to one another?

2. What do you know about this problem that I don’t?
What can you see based on your experience that someone without it cannot?
What do you know that most people don’t?

3. What would your process be for making this decision if you were in my shoes?

Questions Mentors can ask their Mentees
These questions are also valuable for mentors. Instead of offering solutions or suggestions, mentors can prompt their mentees to reflect by asking:

1. What variables in this decision are important to you?
Who else or what else does this decision impact?

2. What are you most worried about in making this decision?
What possibility excites you the most?

3. What have you tried so far?
What do you think is the best process for this decision?

These questions encourage reflection and empower mentees to solve both the current problem they are facing and future problems. They also enable mentees to develop authentic solutions that fit their unique needs, values, and learning styles.

What questions have you used to encourage clear thinking in your mentoring relationships?

*Clear Thinking by Shane Parrish: (Farnam Street, 2023, ISBN: 0593086112)

The quality of your questions

Your Mentoring Year Tip #12: Celebrate Success!

Celebrate Success!

How long has it been since you’ve taken a look at the progress you’ve made? As a mentor? As a mentee? In your business? In your personal growth?

We encourage you to take time each quarter with your mentoring partner to celebrate your achievements. What are the demonstrable improvements in outlook, behavior, performance and work satisfaction since your mentoring relationship began? Get specific and outcome-focused. We can’t fully appreciate where we are until we’ve celebrated how far we have come.

Your Mentoring Year Tip #11: Checking In On Goals

Checking in on Goals

How will you know whether or not you’re achieving your goals?

When you get results? Yes. Sometimes that’s the case.

More often the knowing and the awareness of where you are at with your goals lies in the simple, and powerful, action of checking in. You can do this on your own, with a friend, cohort or mastermind and/or with a mentor.
The real work of refreshing your memory and looking at your goals, framing them in your vision, is actually so simple that many overlook it. You won’t when you actively follow this tip.